stophatingyourbody:

Let me tell you, ladies and gentlemen… being thin DOES NOT mean your life is just automatically better, that you’ll ALWAYS be happy, or that you’re somehow some goddess of beauty.


I’ve been “underweight” for my entire life.

My first day of school in kindergarten, my mom was interrogated by “concerned” parents. … “Do you feed your daughter?” or “is she normally that skinny?”

Throughout my childhood, people would ask, “are you anorexic or something? I bet you’re bulimic”. This isn’t a compliment. It makes me feel like you’re saying that I don’t believe that I’m beautiful, that you don’t see me as beautiful, and that I look down on anyone that weighs more than me. I have spent years trying to prove that I’m not self-hating, not trying to be skinnier, and not concerned about my weight. Somewhere around middle school, I actually  had to sort of train myself to avoid the bathroom (even if I had to pee) for 2-3 hours after eating to make sure nobody actually thought I was making myself puke up my meal. I do it unconsciously now. Throwing up is actually on my list of phobias, on the top 3 (next to spiders… I’m not really afraid of needles anymore, thanks to IV class).

I’m like a teenage boy, I have to eat as much as possible all of the time. I’m hypoglycemic, so if I don’t eat every two hours or so,  I get extremely grouchy, exhausted, and irritable.

EVERY SINGLE TIME I go to my doctor’s office, she comments on my weight. “oh, you’re still the same weight. How many meals per day do you eat?” *concerned expression* I feel like I’m being INTERROGATED because it’s in my genetic code to be thin. Two words: Fast metabolism.

My doctor finally did find out that I have a digestive issue… I’m gluten and dairy intolerant. People tend to want to encourage me to eat all of the time, so when they offer me food and I have to deny, the look they give is so… judgmental.
I explain, “I’m sorry, that actually used to be one of my favorite foods and it looks and smells SO GOOD, you have no idea, but I’m gluten and dairy intolerant.” They think I’m on this diet to LOSE WEIGHT. Almost every time, they say… “oh, so THAT’S why you’re so skinny!” … no.
I tell them, I’m on this diet because it is actually supposed to help me GAIN weight. And it is! The intolerance means that my body has been unable to properly absorb some vital nutrients! Don’t get me wrong though, my whole family looks like this. My mom was 90 lbs when she got married and she doesn’t have a single health problem.
People used to always watch what I was eating, and would scoff if I left anything behind.

I had a friend who suffered from an eating disorder and she starved herself to try to get to my size. She copied everything I did to try to get the same results. It broke my heart when  I found out.

Hurtful things that have been said to me because I have a fast metabolism:

  • Nobody wants to fuck a bag of coat hangers
  • Nobody can cuddle with a stack of bones
  • You call me beautiful but you don’t understand because you’re skinny.
  • You don’t actually think I’m pretty (this is when I compliment someone that complains to me about weight). You’re skinny.
  • Are you anorexic or something?
  • oooooh, so THAT’S why you’re so skinny
  • I’ll carry this, I don’t want you to break.
  • I’m going to feed you a pound cake a day until you gain some weight.
  • Girl, you need some MEAT on your bones.
  • Why don’t you just try to eat more?
  • REAL women have curves.
  • If you want boobs, just gain some weight! It’s that simple!
  • Why don’t you fill out your training bra? You’re supposed to be able to fill the whole cup.
  • You don’t need a diet, you’re skinny enough as it is!!
  • Here, take my food. You look like you’re dying.
  • You’re lucky, you can get anything you want at any store!
  • You must be size 0! (actually, no. I have HIPS. I can’t even squeeze in to a size 0)

I’ve been interrogated, devalued, and unappreciated for most of my life simply because I’m thin. THIS IS THE WAY I WAS BORN. I truly think that women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful, but somehow, when I compliment heavier women, they don’t think I’m NOT being genuine.

Even with all of this, I still think I’m beautiful. I still love my body. I still appreciate myself and make sure my body is in balance.

Ladies, Gentlemen… “Skinny is beautiful” is an unrealistic standard set by the media. Being thin, again, does not mean you’ll be happy. It does not mean you’ll be accepted.

ACCEPT YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Only then will you be happy, healthy, and even accepted by other people’s standards. If you’re trying to impress people that are pushing you to unrealistic standards, THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS.

I used to struggle with myself. I used to think that because of my thinness, I looked like a terminally ill patient and that I wasn’t a real woman because I didn’t have an ample bosom or sexy curves, or meaty thighs.  

I fought through that self doubt IMPOSED BY OTHER PEOPLES’ MISPLACED JEALOUSIES AND UNREALISTIC STANDARDS. I am BEAUTIFUL as I am, because this is how I was made to be. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL THE WAY YOU ARE, BECAUSE THAT IS THE WAY YOU WERE MADE TO BE.

WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT!

The secret to beauty? SELF CONFIDENCE!!!!!!

again, I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH!! If your “Friends” are telling you that you aren’t pretty, or if you’d be pretty if you did this or that, or you need to lose/gain weight… THESE PEOPLE ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. THEY WILL NEVER BE TRUE FRIENDS. AND THEY WILL NEVER HELP YOU BE HAPPY.

STAND STRONG IN WHO YOU ARE!!!! LOVE YOURSELF!!!! LOVE OTHERS!!! TAKE HOLD OF WHAT YOU HAVE AND OWN IT!

 

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I’ve been thin my whole life, I eat a ton (but not ‘junk’ food) and have a fast metabolism, but have become way underweight over the past decade because of my chronic GI illnesses. The commentary I get from people sometimes makes me want to bash their skulls in for being so ignorant, insulting, and rude. You never know what the hell is going on inside of a person’s body.

super-who-locked-in:

angle-of-depression:

nothingcorporate:

opinions on abortions are kinda like nipples

everyone has them but women’s are a little bit more relevant 

But all you ever see are men’s

Oh shit

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Anonymous:
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18. Phobia

I don’t exactly have a ‘phobia’ per se, but I have anxiety/borderline social anxiety and I fucking hate feeling trapped- emotionally/physically as well as being bound to obligations without having a way of escape (apparently this stems from my physical chronic illnesses- which I do agree with). I also freak out whenever I have/want to be emotionally honest about serious things. My mind literally blanks. Every time.

Anonymous:
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16. Favorite movie

I’m just going to say Hocus Pocus. It’s been the same since I was about 3 when I probably watched it almost every day of my life. I’m assuming it’s the reason why I’m obsessed with history and weird shit and have always had a bit of a dark and twistedness… and can’t forget the family ancestry since that’s the area of the world where my mom’s side has been for over 300 years. I guess I just naturally feel connected to it. Anyway. There’s that.

17. A fact about my life

Hmmm. I’m trying to think of something y’all probably wouldn’t know that’s halfway interesting… idk. I have a huge fascination with art/ancient history (mostly Greek/Roman/Egyptian) and  probably should have been a historian of some sort, but it’s a little late for that… or something to do with naturey things or animals… without involving biology because I really hate science of that sort. 

Anonymous:
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1. The meaning behind my URL

Uhhhh. It’s from Milk & Black Spiders by Foals (lyrics). It’s probably my favorite song of theirs… at least for now… and the ocean is one of the few places where I am actually truly happy and at peace with life in general- northeastern Atlantic to be specific.

"Don’t take a nude pic if you’re a famous woman and don’t want it leaked."

mysharona1987:

"Don’t wear a hoodie if you don’t want to be mistaken for a criminal and shot."

"Don’t get drunk at a party if you don’t want to be sexually assaulted."

"Don’t argue with a cop if you don’t want to get killed."

"Don’t walk home by yourself if you don’t want to get raped."

Victim blaming 101: Everyone should live in fear from ever doing anything.

CAN YOU IMAGINE A BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND?? LIKE SOMEONE ACTUALLY GIVING A SHIT ABOUT YOU??? BECAUSE I CAN’T

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How the Logic of "Friendzoning" Would Work If Applied in Other Instances:

  • *Man walks into a store and finds employee*
  • Man: Alright, I've had enough. Why haven't you guys hired me?!
  • Employee: Uh...well sir, when did you put in your application?
  • Man: I never filled out an application.
  • Employee: Well sir, we can't consider you for employment if you've never filled out an application.
  • Man: No, that's bullshit, because I've been coming here for years now, and every single time I tell you all how much I love this store and how much I appreciate your customer service, unlike some of your other customers might I add!
  • Employee: Well, but that doesn't-
  • Man: AND I even told you that I didn't have a job!
  • Employee: But sir, that doesn't indicate to us that you would like a job at our store. And again, if you've never filled out an application, we can't consider you. Besides, we're not hiring.
  • Man: OH! Not hiring, HA! What a laugh. I see your store go through seasonal workers all the time. They come and go like nothing, but you won't consider me as a part-time employee even though I KNOW you've been looking for workers to fill positions? That's insane!
  • Employee: Sir, we've been looking to hire a few people for management positions. Do you have any management experience?
  • Man: Well no, but what does that matter?
  • Employee: ...Well sir, that's what we're looking for. You won't be suitable for the position without management experience.
  • Man: Oh that's such a load of crap. You know, you'll be waiting around a long time for a manager if you don't lower your standards a little. Who cares if someone knows how to manage a store? I LOVE this store and I'm willing to work here, that's all that should matter to you.
  • Employee: That...doesn't make any sense.
  • Man: NO! I'm done. This is over. From now on, no more Mr. Nice Guy.
  • Employee:
  • Man:
  • Employee:
  • Man: Fuck you, slut.

1. The meaning behind my URL
2. A picture of me
3. Why I love my bestfriend
4. Last time I cried and why
5. Piercings I have
6. Favorite Band
7. Biggest turn off(s)
8. Top 5 (insert subject)
9. Tattoos I want
10. Biggest turn on(s)
11. Age
12. Ideas of a perfect date
13. Life goal(s)
14. Piercings I want
15. Relationship status
16. Favorite movie
17. A fact about my life
18. Phobia
19. Middle name
20. Anything you want to ask

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thesassylorax:

theunithasasoul:

amazingavengers:

beifag:

k1mkardashian:

girls think having a period sucks but try having to fix your penis discreetly through your pocket 

having the insides of your organs shed and come out through your genitals does not compare to having displaced balls sorry

none of you can do it discreetly anyways

we see you

everyone sees you

Kamaki (Greek)

my-mirrored-sea:

greenbroken-glassocean:

Defined: Greek men who frequent touristy areas looking for female tourists to court.

my-mirrored-sea WE NEED TO SIGN OURSELVES UP FOR THIS

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS OMFG

We’ll have to go when Yannis is there, maybe he can steer us in the right direction.